2018 End of Year: Four Gifts You Can Give Yourself
Around this time of year, things get crazy. Time melts away as the days grow shorter and our social calendars fill up. In an effort to help you maintain a little more sanity over the next few weeks, I’ve prepared four simple gifts you can give yourself before the year is out.
Ditch your scale. I don’t mean stop weighing yourself. I mean actually throw your scale away. Not because you are definitely going to gain weight over the holidays and you just need to accept it and not watch it fluctuate. Not because you don’t need to weigh yourself every day because that’s just crazy making. I mean ditch your scale because it is an emotional black hole. Your scale is an external indicator of your health and personal satisfaction with yourself and your body, and it is a liar, anyway. Your scale does not tell you what size you are or what you look or feel like. Your scale reflects your approximate relationship to the force of gravity here on Earth, and honestly that has VERY little to do with your health. I promise that your scale does not dictate your value or lack thereof according to the force of gravity related to your mass going up and down.
Weight is the force of gravity calculated on an object, and if you want to get super mathematical about it, the exact formula is w = mg (weight = mass times the acceleration of gravity).
This is a scientifically sound mathematical equation, and the funny thing is, we place so much value on our weight without really thinking about our mass. We put tons of pressure on this SCALE, and we make choices throughout our day based on a math equation that we more than likely hated in high school.
Throw your scale away. This is a first step to beginning to listen to internal cues v. external cues. (The scale is a definite external cue.)
Commit to adding in more of the things you want rather than taking away things you don’t want. Listen, we all think that if we punish ourselves like we are our own bad toddler who can’t be trusted with an entire pint of Ben & Jerry’s we will WIN and have willpower and self control and NOT go off the deep end at the holiday party. I promise you, though: every single restriction has an equal and opposite binge. So it may not be today. It may not be tomorrow. But deprive yourself long enough, and eventually you’ll rebel.
As Oscar Wilde would say… “The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. Resist it, and your soul grows sick with longing for the things it has forbidden to itself, with desire for what its monstrous laws have made monstrous and unlawful.”
Enact your boundaries. No, you do not have to eat anything you don’t want to just because so-and-so made it and so-and-so will be upset if you don’t. No, you don’t owe anyone your health. No, you don’t have to put up with anyone commenting about your weight gain or loss. No, you don’t have to.
Need some help with boundaries around your health? Girl, let’s talk.
Sit down and decide what it is you value, what it is you want more of in 2019, and what you’re fed up with. In order to get the things you want for yourself, first you have to know what it is you even want. So often when I sit down with a woman for the first time and ask her what her life would have to look like in one year to make her say, “wow, I’m wildly successful and happy,” she doesn’t actually even know. I’m not saying you’re a soothsayer and you can KNOW what will make you happy. But I’m willing to bet you know HOW you want to feel every day and can paint a picture of a life that looks like your personal definition of healthy AND happy. To that point, define what your personal definition of healthy LOOKS like.
These things are simple, but they aren’t necessarily easy. If you can make time for at least one of them, though, I’m willing to bet your holiday season will be just a little bit brighter.