It's not about knowing all the answers.
We live in a time and a place where saying “I don’t know” is largely seen as unacceptable. In fact, we have access to an endless supply of information, right at our fingertips.
But a lot of it? Doesn’t serve us. I mean, I am QUEEN of Googling my way to a cancer diagnosis or allowing Dr. Google to diagnose me with some rare disease that effects 1/16th of the world’s population.
Doesn’t serve me.
Listen, I’ve dug deep into my own piles of excuses and fear and absolute bulls%*t, and one of the greatest strengths I emerged from the mud and the muck with was the ability to say… “I don’t know.”
I don’t know, but I’m willing to do the work to find out.
Through all of the work I’ve done thus far, I’ve realized that each of us lives in the world our individual questions create.
It isn't about knowing all of the answers and reading all of the things. It's about learning how to ask the right questions.
In a culture where you’re seen as socially at fault when you don’t know things, and, on top of that, the elusive illusion of perfection takes hold, how do we show up fully as ourselves and NOT feel like absolute frauds who should probably just go back to bed?
Easy: get really comfortable with asking questions.
Little kids are SO good at this. Three year olds will ask questions all day long. They’re still trying to figure it out. As adults, we’ve learned that asking questions is a sign of weakness, or worse… ineptitude. And so we stop asking questions externally. And then, even worse, we stop asking them internally.
John Seely Brown, the former chief Scientist at the Xerox Corporation is quoted as saying, “I have to reframe how I even think about using all of this technology. I find myself asking all kinds of fundamental questions. And as I do that, I eventually realize that the lenses I’m looking through to see the world around me are wrong—and that I have to construct a whole new frame of reference.”
Okay. So Mr. Brown is talking about technology. But I gotta tell ya: the deeper and deeper I’ve gotten into the world of health, the more I realize: I’ve been asking the wrong questions… and honestly, for a really long time, I was looking at the world through the lens of diet culture. Because… diet culture has been the voice of health for YEARS.
But I sense a paradigm shift coming.
Barbie is changing form. The status quo is being challenged. The conversation is shifting.
So what questions can you ask yourself to keep up?
Mr. Brown teaches us that when we reach information overload mode (this is what I call food confusion, i.e. the frustration and utter "what-the-duckness" we feel in relation to the sea of controversial information out there on the interwebs and in the world at large re: good food, bad food, diet fads, and everything in between.), this is when context becomes critical.
Three important questions to ask when reading health articles:
What is the agenda behind this information?
How current is this info?
How does it connect with other information I’m finding?
It’s not about knowing everything. Rather, it’s about refining the art of question asking and challenging everything. Instead of thinking you have to know all the answers, ask yourself if you are capable of rearranging what you DON’T know into questions that ask you to think bigger than what you’re being told.
p.s. Ready to love the food you eat and live the life you love? Here are a couple ways I can help you with ending the cycle of shame and regret when it comes to food and your body:
1. Join the Beet Powder group and connect with women who are investing in their health and happiness, too.
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2. Get yourself a copy of Glowing Goddess Guru Beast Manifesto.
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3. Hop on the phone with me to work out if and how I can help you. Hate talking on the phone to strangers?! Me too. (Telephonophobia, or phone fear, is genetic!) But fear not. This 10 minutes is going to fly by, and we’re going to keep it fun & simple by focusing on three things: what's not working with food and your body, what's standing in the way, and if and how I can help you. Answer a few questions, and we’ll be set to chat—awkward free. Apply here.